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You’re In Charge

February 1, 2012

Forgive the new age-y tone of this.

Now that you’ve been forewarned, let me continue. It’s no secret that I’ve been struggling with happiness lately. Not in a very serious way, but in a “oh crap, I’m an adult now and things aren’t fun 85% of the time” kind of way. A reality check, if you will. I’m not here today to tell you how to buck up and be happy, but, well, I kind of am. I cannot guarantee success, by the way, so you can’t get your money back or anything like that. In fact, I am pretty sure that you need to come to these conclusions yourself, but without further ado:

How to learn to stop worrying and love your life.

1) You are in charge. If you’re spending most of your day doing something for someone else, or something that has no effect on your happiness, you must change that. You may still have to do all of those things for that other person (ie: your boss, your children, etc) but you can find a way to do the things you need to do for yourself too.

2) Stop whining about everything. Are you annoyed that you have to do the dishes all of the time because your roommate leaves her crusty cereal bowls on the counter and then goes away for the weekend? Does it drive you nuts that you always have to take out the trash because your boyfriend never remembers? Well, of course those things suck, but more often than not, our co-habitants (not a word, eh?) are probably doing things for us that piss them off, so stop bitching about it. Stop putting effort and energy into being annoyed that you have to do something for someone else and just do it. Tedious tasks go by more quickly and become less tedious when they become habit.

3) Recognize the things that make you happy, or used to make you happy. For example, I get inexplicable joy from sitting at coffee shops by myself with a book or a notebook, and from wandering around bookstores for too long. After recognizing little things that bring you joy, find a way to make sure to incorporate them into your daily life.

4) Endorphins. Running, dancing, soaking up sunshine, having sex, etc–all things that release endorphins in your brain. Do some of them, hell, try to do any one of them every day. You will feel better.

5) Keep things clean. If you’re anything like me, your apartment/car/bathroom/purse is a mess most of the time, but if you spend just a few minutes every day tiding up, you won’t have to do a huge clean up once a week. Even though I know how much you like putting on clothes from each corner of your bedroom and Swiffering to Hanson albums of yore on Saturday afternoons…


To happiness!

One Comment leave one →
  1. February 2, 2012 2:24 PM

    Your title didn’t sound new age-y. I just wondered if perhaps my name was Charles.


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