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>Memories of V-Days Past

February 14, 2011

>Valentine’s Day has always plagued me. In fourth grade the “cute boy” (now the kid who posts excessively Zionist/anti-Islamic jargon repeatedly on Facebook) gave the most popular girl a beanie baby with a heart on it, or something, and I went home feeling sad and rejected. In high school, I whined about not getting sent carnations from the boys I wanted them from in homeroom, until I did, and received THREE of them from the same boy who I was letting touch my boobs for a few months, who I later realized had another girlfriend. Not me, but someone else also. Thanks. Then I spent another Valentine’s Day wondering why the guy that I was making out with upstairs at parties, but wasn’t sure that I actually liked at all, didn’t send me ANY carnations. And then senior year I got one, from my boyfriend, and it was sweet and then we had a “secret” sleepover at our friends’ house whose parents were cool with these things, until they weren’t and we had to sleep on the floor in the bedroom with the other couple.

After that it got bad. All four years of college were spent lamenting my status as a single at dinners with other single girls, whining about not being anyone’s date to any stupid formal, or worse, going as a friend and trying to hit on other people’s dates. And then I graduated, and started working in restaurants, and then Valentine’s Day became great. It was a way to rape and pillage happy couples of their money while serving them overpriced specials and champagne “deals”, and I didn’t have to worry about whether I was dating someone or not, because I was on the schedule to work either way.

Last year my boyfriend and I had only been together a short time and I had no idea what Valentine’s Day protocol would be, so I asked him if he minded if I worked that night. I maintain that that question is one of the major reasons he wanted to continue to date me. This year, he’s out of town (which I okay-ed, more than once, and never once threatened to hold against him) and I’m working, as I mentioned last night and I already have my little present, and that’s fine.

Valentine’s Day is silly. There’s no reason to whine if you’re alone, or wear black in protest, or talk about watching “The Notebook” on repeat, and there’s no reason to sit in an overpriced restaurant, basically on top of other couples awkwardly trying to have whatever you deem a “romantic” conversation.

Maybe I’m a cynic, or, finally, a pessimist, but LOVE isn’t something that concerns me so much anymore. To have someone who compliments you, who forces you to grow and push yourself, who you can share with, and who you can rely on, that is what is important. That person need not be a romantic attachment. Sure, that’s the goal, and we’d all love to find the person whose presence makes our knees buckle and our mouths water, but there’s so much love and support in the world with friends, family and even strangers, that we are all strong enough to make it on our own. Love is nothing more than a way to verbalize a feeling of comfort. So let’s all be comfortable in our own skin and strive to make others feel the same way.

Remember, this Valentine’s Day, you are loved. And come have some all-you-can-eat tacos…

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4 Comments leave one →
  1. February 15, 2011 12:02 AM

    >Well said! Valentine's Day is a pretty silly holiday. Here, have a text heart:<3

  2. February 15, 2011 12:20 AM

    >I think you nailed it. I think there is so much more to the human experience than romantic love. We all have so many wonderful things in our lives, a significant other is just one part of it for many. I will also give you a text heart: ❤

  3. February 15, 2011 7:46 PM

    >I was just dicussing the absolute humiliation that is buying a Valentine's Day card, on Valentine's Day, with my brother. It's so embarrassing, especially when you realise that everyone around you is just as embarrassed and aware of the stupidity they are taking part in."There's so much love and support in the world with friends, family and even strangers, that we are all strong enough to make it on our own." I might get this tattoed on my forehead.

  4. February 22, 2011 9:44 PM

    >This is awesome. I think by "LOVE," though, you mean "romance," which of course we can do with or without. Love, I believe, is, of its nature, a transformative act, not a feeling of any kind. When we See someone–for who they are and who they potentially are–we transform their potential goodness into reality. And in the self transcendence that requires, we are transformed as well. Like you said, this is hardly bound by the parameters of a romantic relationship.

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